Astrology Compatibility – Why Sun Signs Cause Confusion

I’ve been a practicing astrologer for over 16 years, specializing in astrology compatibility. Being somewhat of a technophobe, I’ve largely avoided the internet for much of that time. All good things must come to an end however, so here I am, now an avid online reader and writer. When time permits I read and answer questions on various relationship astrology forums. Inevitably I read topics which go like this:

I’m a Leo, am I compatible with an Aquarius?

Answer 1 — yes!

Answer 2 — no! I’m a Leo and I dated an Aquarius. We split up.

Answer 3 — relationship astrology is stupid. I spent 172 hours researching that every single sun sign combination has had divorces.

Each of these answers is wrong, yet typically each will get people agreeing with it. On forums where votes are cast one of these answer is typically selected as being correct, and filed away for future generations of question seekers.

So what’s going wrong here?

It seems like whenever and wherever astrology compatibility is discussed on the internet that there’s an assumption that sun signs are the key to astrology. I suspect this is largely due to the desire to simplify, streamline and condense everything. Astrology however is a subject where simplification often creates problems.

The grim reality is that people are much more than just their sun sign, and if you want a ‘real’ answer to an astrology question, then you’ll need a real astrology reading. Going just by sun signs is useful to get a rough idea of what to expect, but there are many other planets which can override and trample someone’s sun sign traits. Every person and natal chart is unique.

This has led to the interesting situation where probably 80% of all information about relationship astrology on the internet is basically wrong. To qualify that metric, if sun signs could be looked at in a vacuum, then information would be correct. In practice (and people are asking such question to make real life decisions, and not as a hypothetical exercise) it’s just not that straightforward.

One interesting side effect of this appears to be a small army of armchair internet astrologers, handing out parcels of neat and tidy information on all aspects of sun signs. Why do they do this? Because the concept of keywords mean that a potential visitor isn’t going to search for “Aquarius sun, Leo moon, Aries mars etc” – they’re going to search for “Aquarius” – and woe betide any article which dares to lose focus by going off topic with qualifications. Anything more complex than that will lead to the browsers back button being hit, and pretty fast.

Fair enough, perhaps this is happening in all subjects. On the internet education is clearly being led by the student, and the educators are telling them what they ask, and not what they need to know. Search engines effectively force websites to meet the need for instant gratification.

The problem for astrology is that this obsession with sun signs is degrading the credibility of the subject. People are right to say “hold on, I’m a Leo and I don’t get along with Sagittarius! This astrology stuff is worthless!” Are professional astrologers guilty of this too? Yes, we are. Because otherwise, no one would read our articles! It would be fairly easy however for astrologers to put a disclaimer or warning when answering posts or writing articles, and perhaps that’s the solution?

For more information on astrology compatibility please see Just make sure to read the disclaimers…

Houses of Astrology – The Seventh House

The 7th house (where the Sun visits every year) draws your attention to the business of relating, to marriage and the need for that special someone in your life. When you look at a chart and there are planets in the 7th (at birth) they are ‘activated’ at least once a month (by the Moon) and once a year by the Sun, along with other visitors to the 7th at various time in the year and in your life. Your natal chart offers information about how you cooperate with others and they with you = relationships. Lawsuits are also shown here as well as one-to-one friendships (your best friend). What you think you lack in yourself you’ll attract in others and what you abhor in others is a reflection of what you ‘hate’ in yourself!

Being the house of Attraction you’ll ‘draw’ to yourself whatever and whomever you need in order to grow and develop. In understanding any planets within or aspects to the 7th you’ll come to understand what it is you NEED (which is different to what you want). Remember, this position won’t show any actual person but it will indicate the ‘type’ of individual being ‘drawn’ into your life or, the type of person you’re attracted to…

Grandparents are shown here as well as anyone who acts on your behalf (agents etc.). Being the house of Open Enemies (and who is our biggest enemy?) refer to this house when you feel you’re being ‘persecuted’ in any way… The 7th house is multi-faceted for it is the house of equality and if any relationship, marriage or union is not ‘equal’ then failure is sure to follow. The challenge of how two people can make any kind of relationship (marriage) work is perhaps the greatest challenge we all face, it is not to be taken lightly. Talking of marriage, not everyone enters the marital bed with ‘love in his or her eyes’. No way for there’s often a hidden agenda working beneath the surface. Fire signs indicate and impulsiveness in forming partnerships. Earth signs take their time. Air signs need communication. Water signs need relationships more than most thinking “being with someone is better than being alone… ” This information is offered as a guideline only for there are many, many dynamics at work when two people meet face-to-face (another keyword for this house).

Human being are perhaps the most vulnerable of all when it comes to relationships for many, many attract the same circumstances over and over again, never really learning anything, it’s always something that happens to them or the other person’s fault or, even blaming FATE…

The 7th house in reality is asking you to look at your 1st for they mirror each other.

Look to any planets in this house for they’ll tell you about what you need or what you can expect in any partnership/relationship/close friendship. Example the Sun in the 7th could mean looking for a father figure! The Moon could mean that you’re looking for a mother figure and so on. “I have Uranus located here – what does that say about what I need?” Drop me an email with your suggestions LOL. Sometimes the actual sign or the element of the sign on the cusp can give you a clue as to what you need in a partner or, what you need to express outwardly.

Being the house of ‘balance’ it’s often the case that we seek in ‘another’ that part of our ‘self’ that need to be made ‘whole’ (whether this is achieved easily is another matter) for remember this house is all about the identification of oneself through interacting with others on a personal level (remember this the next time you pick a ‘fight’ with another for you’re really ‘fighting’ with yourself!) Examine this house for it set’s in motion patterns. “If you always do what you’ve always done then you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” As I said the 7th house indicates patterns and if you won’t learn from the experiences offered by this house then you are ‘doomed’ to repeat them until you do.

Keeping in mind ‘patterns’ are set in motion if the same thing happens to you a third time and then they are difficult to break.

Zi Wei Dou Shu – A Chinese Astrology System

Zi Wei Dou Shu is a system of Chinese Astrology used by many professional Chinese astrologers. Although it is less popular than its counterpart, Ba Zi (also known as Four Pillars of Destiny or Eight Characters), it provides comparable insights into a person’s character, potential and luck throughout his or her life.

Ba Zi expresses a person’s Chinese solar year, month, day and time of birth into four pillars comprising each of a heavenly stem and an earthly branch. The astrologer then studies the relationship, the combination, clashes etc between the stems and branches in the pillars to make inference of a person’s character and potential. Zi Wei Dou Shu on the other uses a person’s Chinese lunar age (date and time of birth) and express then into a model comprising of palaces, stars, stems and branches to denote time and the four forces generated by the heavenly stems.

There are 12 palaces to be exact arranged in a 4×4 matrix. There are Self, Sibling, Spouse, Children, Wealth, Health, Travel, Friends, Career, Property, Mental and Parent palaces. Within each of the palaces are the heavenly stem and branch that denotes time frame e.g. decades, years, months, day and even time. Also located within the palaces are stars that can range from as little as 18 to 114 depending on the school that your practice. And finally the four forces (or changes).

There are broadly two schools of Zi Wei Dou Shu namely the Three Harmony School and the Four Changes (refer to forces) School.

The primary difference between the two schools is in the emphasis. The Three Harmony School places much more importance on the stars in each palaces and their combination with other stars in selected palaces. The Four Changes School place much more emphasis on the four forces (that exist in every palaces) and hence are able to make as many inferences with much lesser stars. The Four Changes schools typically use between 18 and 30 plus stars only.

Both the systems have their strengths and weaknesses but in the hands of an experienced astrology, it can reveal a lot of things about the person. For example aside from telling you about the person’s character, it can also tell his or her career and wealth potential, relationship with others such as spouse, sibling, children, children and friends, his or her physical and mental health and migration potential.

Besides these it can also reveal a person’s luck e.g. career, wealth, relationships and health in every decade and year.

Needless to say learning the system is not easy and it takes years even under proper guidance to be reasonable good at it.